Growing up in the shadow of my two sisters was intimidating. One grew up to be a successful business owner and the other grew up to be a successful business owner:) They are both self made business women who identified their passion, their style and created a life and a business that supported it. Everything they touch is dripping with their aesthetic. EVERYTHING. Even my kids, who are 2 and 3, can identify a gift or card from either of them on sight.
There was no way I could compete. When I tried to match their taste, I failed. If I tried to imitate either of them, it would look like a joke. So, I inevidently did what any other middle child would do–if I could not be better, I would be different.
It has taken me years to find my style. I kinda always had an idea of what I thought it was, but couldn’t have put it into words like my sisters can. The truth is, style evolves. Just as we evolve, our style, that which represents us, evolves. Once I stopped trying to define my style, my style rose to the surface and became truly representational. My style has had yet another growth spurt with the addition of my husband and children. Seeing the world through their eyes has elevated my style to our style.
Once I stopped trying to force style to happen, it happened authentically. It was there all along–just like it is for you. We each have our own way for creating, of styling, of adding beauty into our world. Listen to your instinct and cultivate what you love and your style will appear.
As we enter the holiday season, it is a wonderful time of year to experiment with your style. Decorate. Trust yourself. Tweak. Readjust. Go for it. Allow yourself to create or recreate. Have fun!
Have a styling week~
Janel Perez, M.S., L.P.C.
One Comment
I love this! I never thought of style happening so organically. I always hear, people find themselves in their 20s, and though I am finding myself, I am so up for letting this all happen itself!